MU Peeves Thread
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I mean I’ll ask someone to RP. Then when they don’t or it doesn’t work out; I get all rejection sensitive and never ask again. I just wait for others to ask me.
Spoiler: It doesn’t work well. Also, as much as I thought I was being annoying, I’ve been told I wasn’t annoying. So I just try to ask, but I only do it like twice and then I stop. They now have to engage if they want to.
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@RightMeow This is what killed my excitement for the last game I tried out.
I usually join games by my lonesome, so I reached out to anyone that had hooks that were relevant to my PC or just looked interesting. I got a lot of vague ‘sure in the future’ replies but nothing beyond that. After a couple months of this, I just logged off and never returned.
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@catzilla Just teleport into their living rooms while they’re having dinner. That always works.
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If someone says “we should RP sometime” and you actually do want to RP with them, a good response is “sounds great, what day next week works for you?”
If you just answer “we should rp sometime” with “yeah, we should!” then everyone’s going to explode into a pile of brainweasels and never get the scene going. Somebody has to ask, somebody has to pick a time, effort.
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@Ashkuri And as a corollary, we shouldn’t say “we should RP sometime” as a polite, social, nothing statement like we do when we say “we really should get coffee” to the irritating person you used to work with, and you still see down at the grocery store. Mean what we say and say what we mean.
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I have seen a person get banned around constant loud complaints about asking for RP but they never accepted when people said yes. To me it was clear that they were really only interested in a few specific people, they would spam and handwring on chan when those folks were present and ignore everyone else’s invites or yeses on the lrp channel.
So it wasn’t so much a ban for asking for RP (even though thats the channel where they really were engaging in public problematic behavior) but being passive aggressive/obnoxious/extremely negative on channel.
I’m sure they are fine as a person but it was nice to not have to turn off the lrp channel and being able to use that resource again without having to also deal with their constant complaints that “nobody” would RP with then when in fact people had accepted but weren’t the intended targets of the public asking.
Usually when people act like that in public, they are equally if not more problematic 1:1 or in small groups so not an asset to the game. Maybe this person was an exception but I dunno, could never get them to accept any proactive offer of RP, they never responded to my acceptances of their public asks, and where they showed up to public scenes I or others would set up that their intended targets would come to they would go silent or stompy when that target interacted with others and it didn’t turn into a 1:1 sub scene.
I am almost positive that person’s perception was that they were banned for asking for RP too much. But that wasn’t the real issue of behavior and I doubt even if staff tried to make that clear that the person would have been open to understanding that.
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Those ostentatiously self-impressed individuals who labor under the profoundly misguided delusion that composing sentences in this extravagantly baroque and needlessly loquacious fashion endows them with an aura of elevated intellect.
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@InkGolem said in MU Peeves Thread:
Those ostentatiously self-impressed individuals who labor under the profoundly misguided delusion that composing sentences in this extravagantly baroque and needlessly loquacious fashion endows them with an aura of elevated intellect.
I’m reminded of a certain person who spoke in metaphor a while ago, who @Rathenhope won serious alt radar points for in calling out here.
I will not be invoking the name. I might accidentally start a horror movie subplot on here.
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@dvoraen said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Cobalt This is what happened to me with The Becoming. I had ideas, and a great intro scene, then my brain flatlined about MUing in general.
I don’t know what The Becoming is or was, but I like the name! 10/10 would have my interest piqued.
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Oh, now I remember why I don’t go to new games. The overwhelming feeling that I am not welcome anywhere. (This is nothing anyone has done or said to me, this is my own brain being an asshole to me.)
cob.alt@Discord
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@Cobalt said in MU Peeves Thread:
The overwhelming feeling that I am not welcome anywhere. (This is nothing anyone has done or said to me, this is my own brain being an asshole to me.)
This is why I am so slow to start RPing at any game I join and the primary reason I stop attending RL tabletop groups.
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@SockMonkey I
you too.@MisterBoring Exactly and sometimes I just flake out because the overwhelming feeling of “you are not wanted” gets to me. I know it’s all in my head, though. But the RSD demon gets hard to fight.
I’m sincerely sorry for anyone in the community who had to deal with me as a teenager/young adult who was in the throes of RSD and didn’t understand and just made it everyone else’s promise.
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If someone told me they got banned for asking for RP, I think my first question would be “what kind of RP were you asking for,” tbh. That said, I do sort of see why the person in @mietze’s example would get banned because that sounds hella disruptive. On one hand I can see the call to ask for RP, have someone agree and then getting cold feet, but it seems like this person was just engaging in a kind of whinging attention seeking based on the description.
My personal peeve these days, as an aside, is having basically zero free time to actually MUSH while actively engaging on a couple MUSH discords to keep up with some friends. I’m feeling this constant pull and still having ideas for characters.
