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Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent
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I have two ‘quality of life’ surgeries coming up (one at the end of this month), and I can’t shake the fear that because I’m rather medically unlucky, they’ll just somehow end up making things worse or leave me with chronic pain or something.
So basically, hypochondria mixed with general fear of the procedures and recovery.
What also isn’t helping is that my partner has lost two family members (who went in for routine procedures) due to complications with anesthesia, and becomes so worried on my behalf that I actually end up a bit more scared as a result.
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Crying in the car after dropping off my giant fluffball at the vet urgent care. If you have my discord I have probably spammed you pictures of my big fluff sweet to me and a select few others and a menace to everyone else grrrl.
I’m worried bc she’s food motivated and hasn’t eaten in over 24 hours, including not fussing for food. She even refused her fave liquid pouch treat. She also won’t really move around on her own. She still wants to cuddle.
I’m stressed bc getting the bill is bad bc we have our 3 college bills due in the next 2 weeks too but at least we should get some reimbursement from insurance but I feel like I want to throw up and I just want her to be okay and this is horrible timing bc I’m dropping off a college kid at school tomorrow too.
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Vet after doing a brief physical palpation doesn’t think it’s a blockage or anything emergency. She could not complete the full exam because, well, my floof is a vicious beast, and to do anything more they were going to need to sedate her (and the vet did not really want to do that unless I felt strongly about it at this point.) So they are going to shoot her up with antiemetic, which will give her tummy time to resettle and maybe get her interested in eating/drinking. And then is sending her home. Then if she’s not eaten by tomorrow morning that’s a heads up that we may need to go back in tomorrow afternoon and definitely if she starts getting worse. So, I am going to go get my baby right now, and less of a vet bill too, since she didn’t let them do an xray or blood draw.
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@mietze Maybe she just got into something that upset her tummy. Hoping she’s happy and hungry soon!
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@Snackness could be!
When I got to the vet they had the whole carrier wrapped in a thick blanket. I could hear her growing, hissing and spitting even coming down the hallway. She stopped growling when she saw me, but hissed at the poor vet tech who tried to talk to her every time he said anything. The vet said she’d never seen a cat be that reactive in a snap before, was going to put a note in her file, possibly have her take some kind of relaxant pill or something if she needed to come in again, suggested to just leave her in the wrapped carrier for awhile after getting home because she was worried the cat would attack /us/ she was so wound up…
…but when I parked the car at home, she started making her mama where are you meows and so I unwrapped the blanket, we went into the house, she immediately got out of her carrier and wanted pets and rubs from me and hubby, and now she’s walking around like nothing happened being her usual affectionate self. Her brother is slinking and keeping his distance, I think she must have vet smell/pissed off cat pheromones so bad that not even my stupid panther boiii wants to fuck around and find out. She’s nestled on my feet purring right now. They did shoot her up with an anti nausea thing, though. It took a projected $1200 bill down to $200 though so I’m not going to complain.
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@mietze Oh, gosh! I have a super food motivated girl, too, and she did this recently. I was so worried about her since my old man passed after going off his food (a few years ago now). My mom is a vet receptionist (and former vet tech) and advised to check her heart rate and respiration (Dr google was helpful to learn how), saying as long as that’s normal, it’s proooobably not super serious. The next day she was back to her usual black hole for food vibe.
Hopefully your floof will be the same!
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@mietze My own fluffball had something similar to this, except that he was throwing up everything he ate, even water. It also involved an emergency trip to the vet.
Like yours, they gave him an anti-nausea shot and basically said, “Let’s see if that helps,” and within six hours he was fine and like nothing ever happened. XD
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My big guy made an escape this week, and was gone for almost 24 hours. My son and I were in goddamn shambles about it, he is the sweetest cat I have ever owned and takes long snuggle-naps with me almost every day so the hole in my chest could’ve fit a train through it had anything happened to him, and the kiddo was just crying and crying; really didn’t help that my sister’s cat had just been hit by a car and died, so that’s all he could think about.
Luckily when we went out looking for him and called his name he started yelling for us from his hiding spot under the apartment stairs, a bit spooked but not hurt, and was back to his old lovey self after a few minutes.
Seeing all these memorial posts makes my heart hurt for y’all, I genuinely don’t know what I will do when this guy passes.
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@Wizz said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
My big guy made an escape this week, and was gone for almost 24 hours. My son and I were in goddamn shambles about it, he is the sweetest cat I have ever owned and takes long snuggle-naps with me almost every day so the hole in my chest could’ve fit a train through it had anything happened to him, and the kiddo was just crying and crying; really didn’t help that my sister’s cat had just been hit by a car and died, so that’s all he could think about.
Luckily when we went out looking for him and called his name he started yelling for us from his hiding spot under the apartment stairs, a bit spooked but not hurt, and was back to his old lovey self after a few minutes.
Seeing all these memorial posts makes my heart hurt for y’all, I genuinely don’t know what I will do when this guy passes.
Our dog escaped the house for over a day last February. Hands down one of the biggest nightmare scenarios of my life.
We got her back after a group of people spotted her, tracked her, and managed to corner her in someone’s yard. Sometimes there are good people out there.
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Feeling really low today. My youngest sister had her wedding ceremony and reception last night, and my son and I were invited but had not been asked to take part in any meaningful way even though the other sibs were – the two other sisters were bridesmaids, bro-in-law was asked to have his band play, my niece was the sole ringbearer for the second ceremony even though it had been mentioned but never confirmed that my son was going to be the other one.
Mormon weddings are already kind of painful as everyone not a full member of the church has to just sort of stand around awkwardly for an hour outside the temple or in a waiting room while the “real” ceremony happens, but they even had a second exchange of vows in which my new bro-in-law had his friend “officiate” by literally just saying, “OK are you ready for the vows? Do you have the rings? OK now kiss.” Like…I’m a decent wordsmith, I could have had some nice things to say for my little sis and her husband, but it didn’t even cross their minds apparently.
Feeling like I was there because she felt obligated to invite me was a pretty unpleasant revelation. There’s enough of an age gap that I essentially helped raise her when she was a kid, and while she withdrew to a degree after I left the church, I had always assumed we were at least fairly close.
I get that weddings are a whirlwind and a lot of things can get lost in the noise but boy, it was really hurtful in a way I was not entirely expecting and I am not sure how or even if I should express it to them.
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@Wizz This is kind of why we decided to only have one person on each family stand with me and my fiance. Our best friends rather than our siblings. My only sibling is invited, but as a guest, not as apart of the wedding.
In fact, there’s only one family member from either family in the wedding party, and that’s my 13 year old cousin who’s an usher. Everyone else, the officiant, the ring bearer and flower girl are all friends from our DnD group. That was done intentionally so none of the family feels like they’re being purposefully left out.
Because that was a family drama I did not want. As I know what I’d say, which be along the lines of “Family doesn’t give you special privileges, especially if we don’t talk save beyond one holiday a year.” And I don’t know about anyone else, but that’s just not a conversation I want to have at the Xmas dinner. So, everyone gets left out.
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@Testament said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
“Family doesn’t give you special privileges, especially if we don’t talk save beyond one holiday a year.”
Our family has always had a very different dynamic than that, we all live pretty close and go out of our way to see each other at least a couple times a month, which is why it felt extra hurtful.
It definitely would have been a better and wiser choice to not have any of us that involved either way, but it’s whatever. She’s very young, it was all sort of done in a rush, I can get over it but it just stings for now.
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@Wizz I’m sorry, that sounds really stressful.
My totally unsolicited ‘been a bride’ advice is, if you decide talk to her about it, give it a couple of weeks. Weddings are stressful af, even the good ones.
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I appreciate the advice, and have definitely felt it’s something I should give a little time to sit with before I say anything, if I even do. I am not the type to just immediately storm into a confrontation if something makes me upset anyway, and I can certainly see why it would only harm both of us in this case especially. It was a lovely wedding despite my feels getting hurt, and they deserve the time to come down from the stress of all the preparation and enjoy the honeymoon.
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My 16 1/2 year old cat is gone and I don’t know how long it’s going to take me to be OK.
let it be a challenge to you
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@sao You’re not going to be okay. And that in of itself is okay, everyone is allowed to feel this. It won’t be easy, believe me. Losing my old man cat two years ago tore me apart. And there are days where I still horribly miss him. The first two weeks were the worst. But it does get easier. I don’t know if it’ll ever completely go away, but like so many other things, it becomes something we manage.
Someone else said it here that I believe is rather fitting. “Grief is just love with nowhere to go.”
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@imstillhere Fuck, of course you’re tired. I got sympathy-tired halfway through reading and it just got MORE from there. I hope things calm down for you.
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@imstillhere I’m so sorry. We’re all here for you.
