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MU Peeves Thread
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@mietze said in MU Peeves Thread:
If someone repeatedly can’t come up with nonproblematic concepts that demonstrate a pattern of not showing good judgement as far as they might fit in, no matter how much time I invested in explaining/handholding/helping, ect–it was never ever worth my time. Because the minute they hit the grid, all of the characteristics they’d showed in the CG process (deliberate or otherwise cluelessness, fixation on certain problematic themes, demanding of special attention, ect) only increased once they hit the grid. And back in those days there was kind of an attitude of well once you approved them you shouldn’t take it back.
I don’t put a lot of stock in apps as an indicator of quality, but what I do find they’re good for is flagging issues a player’s going to have with theme or general ‘how they’ll relate to other PCs/staff’ in a way it’s much easier to course-correct pre-approval than post. It also feels a lot more painless to tell someone they aren’t a good fit for a game upfront than to let it become an issue later.
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@mietze said in MU Peeves Thread:
So yeah, if someone can’t even get through cg without flailing on channels, aggressively confronting staff on channels, then yeah. I mean even if they’ve made it through CG by some miracle and start after. Just boot. If you are unhappy even before you start, it’s not going to improve if you don’t even have that when you’re still in the honeymoon stage!
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A new peeve of mine is working second shift, having a slow workday, but not so slow as to really allow myself time to find a new place to look at to play.
I’m oddly missing roster games now.
No thoughts, only app.
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@Juniper said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Val said in MU Peeves Thread:
Logging off in the middle of a conversation to be sure your character gets the last word.
Don’t do that.
Posting a three paragraph rant yelling at someone and then immediately running out of the room. Why do people do this?
Ignoring someone’s poses for three or five rounds, then responding to them all in one pose and then running out of the room. The response invariably involves smart-alec snappy-comebacks that make you look cool until/unless you hang around long enough for the person to make a snappy comeback that points out how stupid yours was. That’s why people do it.
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I fell off the face of planet due to puppy troubles, health troubles, and teenager drama and now I’m scared to go back :x
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@Testament said in MU Peeves Thread:
A new peeve of mine is working second shift, having a slow workday, but not so slow as to really allow myself time to find a new place to look at to play.
I’m oddly missing roster games now.
No thoughts, only app.
You could always restart characters you’ve already app’d. It’d be like a roster character. That you made!
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@Cobalt Come baaaack!
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@dvoraen Yeah but that takes effort.
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@Testament said in MU Peeves Thread:
@dvoraen Yeah but that takes effort.
Takes less effort to get into the head of a character you made than one you didn’t, imo.
(I’m totally not trying to convince you to restart your char on Concordia and conquer the grid, since his brother was murdered.)
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@dvoraen Oh yeah. I forgot about him. Admittedly I was let down by the fact that one of his PC kids was an OC and it was hard to just ‘write out’ on of said kids because it was an OC and therefore can’t be reapp’d after the player was banned for being creepy.
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You should ask staff for permission to rp something that works for you better! I feel like banned = NPCing is reasonable.
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I hate my first week of trying to engage people on a new character. It brings me straight back to that feeling like when you switch schools, and on top of that I’ve learned that it takes me more than a handful of poses to find my character’s voice, with the end result that my ancient reptile brain tells me how awful I am while I’m trying to roleplay a social scene.
Edit: Also, I am deeply anxious about asking for RP on a channel. Intellectually I know that if no one responds it’s not a big deal, but ancient reptile brain says that all of them secretly despise me and wish I would go away.
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@somasatori This is kind of me. I rarely initiate “omg rp?” these days on public channels, because past experience has taught me I have the opposite effect on people. (This means I almost never had any replies, like dead silence. It’s eerie.)
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@somasatori said in MU Peeves Thread:
with the end result that my ancient reptile brain tells me how awful I am while I’m trying to roleplay a social scene.
My brain never stops doing this. I’ve been trying to just be like fuck it guess I’ll just be awful then! But it’s SO HARD.
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Maybe this is hurt feelings talking, but it’s a peeve, as well:
Having a scene with someone and them not posing for days and giving various reasons, yet you know they’re RPing with someone else on another place the entire time, as well as other games.
So, I’m left wondering… does my RP suck, are they bored? Maybe the TS is better! I don’t know. Still sucks. And I still wait.
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@RedJellyBean said in MU Peeves Thread:
Having a scene with someone and them not posing for days and giving various reasons, yet you know they’re RPing with someone else on another place the entire time, as well as other games.
Just say “hey it looks like you’ve been pretty busy and this scene is getting stale, let’s FTB and you can grab me again when you have more time?” And call it a day.
No sense in letting your brain weasels eat you alive.
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@RedJellyBean I know for myself, async scenes are really hard. If I go 24 hours without thinking about/engaging with a scene, it gets really hard for me to go back to it. Even if it’s a scene with someone I LIKE rp with
I have a scene like this that I abandoned and it got auto stopped and I need to reach out and be like hey i’m sorry do you want to kick this thing up again or try a different scene I AM SORRY and ahhhhhhhhhh don’t be mad
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I’m super guilty of “accidental revenge” with async scenes. I say I don’t mind if the other person needs extra time, but the longer they take, the longer I take. And then it eventually snowballs from them taking 24 hours between replies to me taking 48.
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@RedJellyBean said in MU Peeves Thread:
So, I’m left wondering… does my RP suck, are they bored? Maybe the TS is better! I don’t know. Still sucks. And I still wait.
I have definitely felt like this and it sucks, cause then my brain goes “Well maybe they’re just actually not that interested in RPing with you?” and really I’d rather they just tell me that than leave me to wonder. But of course it’s probably not that. Brains suck etc.
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Async is super hard for me too. Even with favorite people. Sometimes its okay if its “burst play” with just a waiting period before it goes again. But my brain flails unpredictably and it really doesn’t have to do with how much I enjoy the other person.
Its the one hangup I still have on most ares games. Especially in log heavy situations where a lot of people seem to read and track. Maybe it’s just because I had some really weird and comfortable alt stalking situations where I knew someone was keeping careful track of my logins and would page me on unrelated alts across games and in games to ask me how my role play was going with the person I was in the room with with implications. Or yes sometimes I worry that people will be mad at me if some things finish first (which is almost always related to pacing and other things that have nothing to do with how great the other people are and everything to do with my deficits.) And boy sometimes I do really feel my inadequacies in a async scene or when something goes into that.
Sonetimes I feel okay reaching out directly to the person(s) to check in. Sometimes it takes a while esp if I worry that they’re mad at me (even if I don’t fault them) because I need to prep myself for that conversation too and I don’t always have the energy to do that properly so that I’m not impinging on someone’s justified irritation and am capable of listening/resolving it.
What this leads to in a practical way is that my reluctance to disappoint moves from theory to actually happening because sometimes I also get hit with pressure I’m putting on myself. I’m a lot better at catching most things now but not always.
I think though that a lot of people I’ve met in mushland struggle with similar things too. And I just am also trying to get better about learning to wrap something once I feel like my brain is failing and hope that the other person(s) doesn’t feel that i don’t like them or will decide they don’t want to talk to me again because I’m awful or whatever.
I think most people are able to get over a momentary irritation (it happens even between really good friends or first choice rp partners too!) And its okay.
But i think it does contribute to ooc stress on a game sometimes at least for me. I want people to like me and want to RP with me, and I like and want to RP with most people too. Sometimes a particular pc or situation is easier to grab onto in that moment for so many reasons. A danger for me in async is that I can overextended easily. Still learning how to best balance that.
