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MU Peeves Thread
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i just want a comic game that’s actually based on the comics but i think that those like just flatly do not exist anywhere anymore
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@Prototart Based in what way?
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If there’s one thing I like about comics it’s their consistency and sense.
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@GF said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Prototart Based in what way?
like, at least vaguely holding to canon in some way and maybe resembling the actual medium instead of replacing it entirely with an 800 page fanfic magnum opus that is clearly superior bc while fools might waste time assembling lettuce and meat and cheese and bread to form a burger the true genius understands you can put them all into a blender
that would be a neat start
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@Prototart said in MU Peeves Thread:
while fools might waste time assembling lettuce and meat and cheese and bread to form a burger the true genius understands you can put them all into a blender
Get rid of that lettuce, and you have an A+ burger shake, no further notes.
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@Prototart I’m of mixed minds. There are some parts of continuity that suck and should be forgotten forever or retconned into subversion. On the other hand, there’s also way too much cringe in how people, I dunno, give Starfire a job as a stripper who’s also a call girl after hours.
Who gets to decide what’s an interesting change and what’s silly? I wouldn’t want that job, but no one’s recruiting me for it, so that’s lucky. I’ll definitely leave that to you.
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@GF said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Prototart I’m of mixed minds. There are some parts of continuity that suck and should be forgotten forever or retconned into subversion. On the other hand, there’s also way too much cringe in how people, I dunno, give Starfire a job as a stripper who’s also a call girl after hours.
there was some game I was on forever ago that had a rule that I’m pretty sure was literally called “nobody cares what iceman did in Champions” and I’ve always really liked that, like, shit from 40 years ago is basically just not relevant at all unless it’s super important or you actually want it to be
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I miss Ares.
Not just all the convenient bits of code and support, although god do I miss those, but the atmosphere and less stressful sense of ‘we’re playing a game’ that seems more common on Ares games than on other games. A bit more interest in collaboration and risk-taking.
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Also (vague post sorta)
REALLY?! Come on. I’m starting to think I have a creeper join here flag on me. Also, I really need to trust myself more when I’m thinking ehhh that seems a bit off and not excusing it with new player/IC relationship expectation/just overly excited person without social clues.
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@RightMeow said in MU Peeves Thread:
Also (vague post sorta)
REALLY?! Come on. I’m starting to think I have a creeper join here flag on me. Also, I really need to trust myself more when I’m thinking ehhh that seems a bit off and not excusing it with new player/IC relationship expectation/just overly excited person without social clues.
I think a lot of absolute weirdos rely on that to get by. When you call them out on whatever thing they’re doing that’s offputting, they’ll tell you that they’re new or excited. The problem is that some people genuinely ARE new and even going from a MUD to a MUSH format can be a real culture shift that can be hard to adjust to. And they take advantage of people’s willingness to give folks slack for those instances.
And that sucks. Because eventually people get burned of that and they stop giving genuinely new folks chances because you start thinking all new people are just full of it and some repeat ban offender.
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I think what got me about this last was negative ooc complaining at a constant and somewhat inappropriate (in the sense of directing that venting at someone not known well) level right off the bat. To an exhausting level. I chalked it up to me being intolerant/less able to handle stuff due to RL stress/feeling stretched thin. I suppose it was borderline reportable at the time but it wasn’t creeper stuff and again I was worried I was just being oversensitive. (Which could have been the case anyway).
But I have had a few people ping me as off lately for reasons that I can’t put my finger on and I do feel bad bc its made me avoidant where usually I would love stepping up to help if desired, because its not to the level I feel comfortable officially reporting and I mean let’s face it, my tolerance level is way way lower than my norm.
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@mietze I ran into a very similar feel lately: dealing with someone who ran right up against the edge of what I would consider overt bad behavior, but – was it me? Maybe I was oversensitive! Maybe I was overreacting! Who ISN’T low-energy and raw-nerved lately?
It was really kind of a bummer for me, too, because it was a situation where I was really excited – and swiftly regretted it as more and more red flags popped up. I always joke about vetting my RP partners and all, but HONESTLY, I do.
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@Tez I vet the shit out of my RP partners. I probably end up painting myself into corners more often than not because of it, but I am just so done with BS.
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I will never blame the people that get caught up with predatory people. Vetting is a good idea but I think most people have a story about one who slipped past the radar and that is not your fault.
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I’m sometimes reminded of something my mother used to say(1): “If people talk about others like this in front of you, how do they talk about you to others?”
(1): Probably the one sane thing she used to say.
People who start new acquaintances on games with bashing everyone and every game they were ever on before are very likely just looking for disappointment (whether they realise it or not) and you’re bound to become the next notch on their complaint list in short time.
There are legit complaints, of course. And there’s being mad at everyone and everything.
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Simply put and this is pretty much what I go by.
"If people who you perceive as friends or associates can not come to you to have an adult conversation on something that you might of said or done and why it bothered them, resulting in them saying nothing at all?
Then they were never your friend to begin with."
If a friend of mine had done or said something that upset me, I’m going to tell them, and we’re going to talk about it. Because I respect them enough to talk about it. If they can’t do the same for you? Then they never actually respected you.
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@Testament said in MU Peeves Thread: If a friend of mine had done or said something that upset me, I’m going to tell them, and we’re going to talk about it. Because I respect them enough to talk about it. If they can’t do the same for you? Then they never actually respected you.
Had a harsh reminder of this last month and it’s still true. When somebody ghosts you and then acts as if you should know what was wrong – then they don’t think you’re worth the effort of telling what you did (assuming that you did anything at all).
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@L-B-Heuschkel Exactly. This same thing happened to me a number of months ago at work. Someone who I had worked with for the last two years. They ghosted me and I never figured out why, as they won’t discuss it with me. It’s a particular level of immaturity that I don’t tolerate. We’re not in high school, and you’re not a teenager. You’re an adult. But if you’re going to hide behind the cause of “Well I don’t like confrontations.” That’s on you, but you’re also an asshole for not telling me what happened, I’m not a mind-reader.
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I know it’s hard when you’re on the negative end of someone refusing to talk to you, but there are plenty (plenty!) of very good reasons to not talk to somebody once they’ve made you uncomfortable. It’s not unreasonable just by virtue of stepping back and refusing to talk.
Nobody owes you their time or explanation. If someone has been made uncomfortable – or is triggered – fault is irrelevant, and it’s OK to just walk away from somebody that hurt you.
Frustrating as it is to be on the receiving end of it, nobody owes you their time after they’ve been hurt (even if they were hurt by something in their own head).
It’s just like it is on mushes in the real world; if somebody came to you (general) on your game because somebody made them feel unsafe, you absolutely would not pressure them to sit down with the person who made them uncomfortable to “talk it out” – we ALL know better than this, I would hope. This extends to the meat suit world for the same reasons.
“But I didn’t make them feel unsafe!” <- you (general) don’t know that, and you (general) sound just like Cullen when you say it.
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