MU Peeves Thread
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I had a person or two reach out in private message to me here to invite me to their games. I didn’t have the spoons for it at the time, but I fucking appreciated it. So maybe if you open a game, just send them a chat you’d like them to play there. That way it’s not public but you don’t have to have Discord or other OOC connections. This coming from someone who doesn’t discord.
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I like this. Thank you people who do this. Even if we don’t have spoons or whatever, being invited is a heck of an uplift. (well, for me.)
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@RightMeow Curious - was it a public game? I did get an invite to an invite-only game via PM once, but it wasn’t my jam, so I never joined. It would seem weird to get an invite to a public game sent to me via PM.
Like.
Why me specifically?
Are you doing this to a bunch of people?
Is this a trap?
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I think it was a little of both. It was going to be public but wasn’t yet. The reason is it’s fairly well known here that I’m nervous about new places now. I’ve had a lot of run-ins with DownWithOPP and RuizPlayer and it’s made me almost have a PSTD response to new games. Heh.
They were just letting me know it was there and the community was safe and they would make it safe for me.
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@RightMeow said in MU Peeves Thread:
@KarmaBum
I’ve had a lot of run-ins with DownWithOPP and RuizPlayer and it’s made me almost have a PSTD response to new games. Heh.Slightly off-topic and I’ve voiced this 100,000 times before, but. Just know that sometimes, a violent outburst is not unreasonable. Sometimes, dick punches are the appropriate response.
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@shit-piss-love said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Cobalt said in MU Peeves Thread:
@shit-piss-love Run something invite only or semi-invite only.
That’s not a bad idea. I keep out of OOC circles in the community but I like the people here well enough. Maybe I’d open it up to people here to start and let y’all refer others.
I just want to be the brief voice of dissent:
There are people I don’t particularly want on my game for various reasons, and who I have banned or ‘disinvited’ before they finished applying.
But they are not the majority, and I cannot overstate the joys of running a public game and meeting people who never would have made it there if we were on an invite-only system. The absolute magic of finding a whole group of players who have amazing chemistry, who are delightful OOC, who build story and theme in a way you never could’ve imagined - who you had NO IDEA existed despite decades of doing this - is truly fantastic. It’s a big part of why I build and run games.
My experience on invite-only games is that you’ll still have player problems. People who get along with A won’t get along with C just because B is friends with both. Invites don’t prevent them, IME.
It does take some thick skin and the willingness to have some hard conversations and close doors to run a game - public or private. But that’s honestly, for me at least, such a small, small part of it. The joys are really immense, too.
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@Tat said in MU Peeves Thread:
My experience on invite-only games is that you’ll still have player problems. People who get along with A won’t get along with C just because B is friends with both. Invites don’t prevent them, IME.
I remember when my dumb ass really thought that going invite-only was the solution to all the worlds ills. We were all young once, I guess.
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@Tez said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Tat said in MU Peeves Thread:
My experience on invite-only games is that you’ll still have player problems. People who get along with A won’t get along with C just because B is friends with both. Invites don’t prevent them, IME.
I remember when my dumb ass really thought that going invite-only was the solution to all the worlds ills. We were all young once, I guess.
It really only solves the ill of population size, rather than quality, which is a perfectly valid thing to want to control. We’re adults, I sure as shit don’t have the time to run a game open to any Tom, Dick, or Tez who wanders in.
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@Pavel You didn’t have to mention tez twice!
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Feeling incredibly down over yet another nail in the coffin of my enjoyment of a place that I have loved very much for a long time. It’s not even anything horrible this time. And I stopped trying awhile ago, to be fair.
Sometimes I wonder what it is. I have only once gotten complained directly to my face about my RP (I think when people say shit behind your back it’s actually rarely about YOU and more about what they’re trying to accomplish with the person they’re whispering at), and that was from someone who couldn’t punctuate even while trying and regularly used “could of” for real. Generally people like me? And the people who really don’t it’s not like I can blame them as it’s more often than not very very mutual. But clearly whatever it is that some people have that makes them enough I don’t got. Most of the time that’s okay, since I do have a few people who are very GGG mush-wise. But sometimes it just makes me feel yuck. I’m thinking maybe even this time it’s mostly timing, and this is a hormonal thing. And I think the real problem is that i probably don’t speak up enough, which really is a me problem.
I feel like I suck, even though I know I suck less than a lot of other people, and that nobody I like thinks I suck. And that the latest twist is totally unintentional (that is somewhat part of the problem). I just need to deal. I’m not quite ready to bail. But it’s a real bummer.
It should be easy. Bug people. Demand things. Maybe throw a fit every once in awhile, since that certainly seems to work now and then. But I can’t. You’d think out of many decades of wearing big girl pants including in mushdom I’d have this down by now.
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@mietze Sorry to hear that. Cause what you described is something I’ve felt before.
I know it is nice to think that if we do the right thing and put our best foot forward that everything should turn out well (or better). But unfortunately in this hobby, that definitely is not the case. Someone usually ends up finding a way to make us feel like crap or steal our joy.
But that’s just some of the people in this community. There are plenty of good and awesome people who we can enjoy. We just have to try to ignore the bad ones and focus on the good. I know its easier said than done, but that’s all we’ve got.
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I just want a place to play my Changeling, damnit.
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@Herja This is /not/ an RDI Alum t-shirt.
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No matter what I intend in CG, all of my characters end up snarky and morbid.
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I wish I could get into something. There are several games that are, theoretically, up my alley, run by people I like who do things I enjoy.
But just can’t muster the energy. I feel bad, because I want to play with people and I have fun. But just nothing sticks to me right now. Hoping that if I don’t force it, I’ll rediscover my mojo at some point.
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@Pyrephox I would advise you not to force it, as someone who’s been in this position for a number things (although my depression tends to help a bit here). Point being, I was trying to force my enjoyment of games (not just MU*s, any games), and I ended up becoming increasingly dissatisfied. Months passed of this and I eventually got tired of that feeling and took the plunge to step away.
About two weeks ago I suddenly had the urge to restart one and it’s enjoyable again. Because I’m not forcing myself to sit down and do it; that’s for schoolwork.
On a MU* note, I’d all but quit from lack of drive. I wasn’t planning to start any new characters or anything, but one day virtually out of nowhere a character concept dropped into my head, latched on like a barnacle, and I find myself excited to take him for a spin when the time comes.
But again, it wasn’t because “Oh I HAVE to do this”; it’s because I let it come to me. Did I want to play games and other MU*'s while feeling in a slump? Yes. But forcing myself into something to try and enjoy it felt like work, and that’s completely counter to the idea that it’s for fun.
So yeah. Give yourself permission to take those steps away and if it comes back to you and excites you again, yay!
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@dvoraen Agreed. Don’t try to force it. If you try to MUSH without the passion within yourself, it’s going to become a chore.
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@Pyrephox I feel this. I’m at the point where I would like to get into a game again, but just watching for a game that actually speaks to my interests. I tried two in the past few months but didn’t click with either. I keep giving it a shot by at least going through CGen and testing the waters by getting on Guest and asking questions.
