@bear_necessities said in Tips for GMs:

@KDraygo said in Tips for GMs:

Try to keep the scene moving,

Please. Please keep things moving. I’ve been in GM’d scenes where we haven’t even finished “posing in” and have already hit the 1 hour mark.

I know this is a few days ago, but this irks me so bad. It is why in the last few years that I was GMing for people, I instituted a rule that if you had not posed after 5-10 minutes when it was your run and not responded OOC your turn would be skipped.

But scenes moving so slowly that I’d lose all focus on them, is a big reason why I stopped GMing and RPing altogether.

I would be unlikely to join a pay for play game. If it was run by someone I know and trusted, I might if my budget allowed it.

In theory, if I did not have a job, wasn’t burnt out, and thought it might work; I’d consider running some sort of pay-me-to-GM for you scheme. But it would have to have strict rules on what the money was exchanging hands for. And that is … something I don’t even know where I’d start with the rules. I also wouldn’t be comfortable doing it while working a full time job, because I’d want to provide something professional that was worth the money I was receiving for it, and that then becomes a case of “would this even be enough to pay my bills” type of question.

All of that theory aside, I rarely ask anything of other people that I’m not willing to do myself. So, if I’m not willing to pay for someone to GM for me… It would feel bad to me to be willing to be paid to GM for someone else.

I think there are ways that it could work for the people who have the funds for it-- like people who pay for D&D. But it wouldn’t be something for me personally.

@howyadoin said in MU Peeves Thread:

You will be miserable trying to demand attention from people who either can’t, or don’t want to, give it to you - and you will make them miserable in the process.

+100000000000000

But also…

If you aren’t having fun then leave. If you find a problem on every game you play? Stop MUSHing.

I’m old, my health is shit, and I’m tired. I love a great deal of people in this hobby but this hobby became a chore for me. I’m sure I made interacting with me a chore b/c I was too stubborn to realize that after 15-20yrs of active mushing I was burnt out.

These days I play video games, write, and spend time with my spouse. None of these things make me feel frustrated or like I’m pushing myself to do something unrewarding.

Frfr, if you are finding that everywhere you go there are problems? You are the problem. I love being around a lot of people in this hobby, but I am so burnt out that I could no longer enjoy spending that time people that I genuinely believe are amazing. This wasn’t anyone’s fault but my own.

Unless you keep running into notorious bad actors in our community, it may be time to take a break.

@somasatori In game is good!

@SockMonkey I you too.

@MisterBoring Exactly and sometimes I just flake out because the overwhelming feeling of “you are not wanted” gets to me. I know it’s all in my head, though. But the RSD demon gets hard to fight.

I’m sincerely sorry for anyone in the community who had to deal with me as a teenager/young adult who was in the throes of RSD and didn’t understand and just made it everyone else’s promise.

Oh, now I remember why I don’t go to new games. The overwhelming feeling that I am not welcome anywhere. (This is nothing anyone has done or said to me, this is my own brain being an asshole to me.)

@Yam said in Tough Calls:

I was just reminded by @Trashcan of the statue command. Also known as the toad command in other systems. Has anyone ever used these? What was the situation?

I have not by the time I started mushing people were usually just IP banned via the server settings.

However, I did witness Troy using it once on someone who was spewing obscenities on TR or FC (I can’t remember which one, they were the same game anyway).

@L-B-Heuschkel said in Pre-Banned Players:

Have to throw my two cents in with the people who already advised against sharing such a list, too. Which is not to say that you shouldn’t know who you’re banning on sight. Just don’t take somebody else’s word for it.

I am at the point in my life where I am willing to give most people another shot. There are all of three people I would not allow to play on any game I ran-- and they have either hurt me RL or have hurt a friend of mine RL.

My main suggestion is to take your own experiences with people and go from there. If someone has repeatedly been crappy to you across games? If they pop up on your game? Ask them to leave.

@Roadspike Yeah, I’m sorry, I was looking for ‘Salish’ vs ‘Coast Salish’. If I had just used the search feature on my internet browser I’d have clued in earlier.

I’m sorry again.

@Roadspike I must have missed Coast Salish when I was going through the language list! I’m sorry.

No, that looks pretty accurate. Technically the Klallam have their own language, but it’s a branch of the Salish language and I’m not sure if it is worth quibbling about.

(I am from a coast Salish tribe. Though I grew up near the Elwha Klallam, and my school taught Klallam.)

This is not meant as a ding against staff but as a gentle correction.

The peoples who speak Sahaptin are further East than Seattle. The tribes in that area are generally Salish, such as the Klallam tribes or the Swinomish. It would be more representative of the tribes in the area to have Salish as a language rather than Sahaptin (if that was the goal and not one added b/c someone requested it for a character from Eastern WA that moved to Seattle).

Sources outside of myself:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sahaptin_language

https://www.washingtontribes.org/the-tribes-of-washington/

ETA: Didn’t realize I c/p the same link twice, whoops.

@Ashkuri omg that is beautiful! Can I put it on her page on EmpireMUSH?

@Ashkuri if the offer is still open….

Lady Bernadine Salfed from EmpireMUSH:

A constant flush brightens this woman’s otherwise pale cheeks. Her eyes are a chilly blue-grey, as though someone stuck a needle in the irises and let out at least half each color. Her silky, sandy blonde hair is almost never let down and is kept pinned back in elaborate hairstyles. Fretful, inner calculations seem to always be plaguing her delicate pink mouth and cause her lovely, long fingers to tap often in the rhythm of her thinking.

I absolutely love games set in PNW. But I’ve never read a Dresden book. How difficult would it be to get into the game without having read them?

@Rathenhope said in Warma-Sheen:

All fair, I wasn’t aware that TR reused names. A few coincidences does not make a pattern, so I retract!

I absolutely understand the idea they might be the same person. This recycling of names is so foreign to how roster and ares games work. It’s not something done in modern day MU*ing.

@MisterBoring said in Warma-Sheen:

@Cobalt So then is Saulot pretending to be other people? (Referring to the character list where Saulot claims to have been the same PC on TR as Warma.)

Nah.

So in the way back when a PC was retired or killed or whatever they would just be completely erased from the game.

Then come Haunted Memories where instead of being deleted they would be renamed with their dbref# at the end, so the name could be recycled. This tradition carried on to most other nWoD games including The Reach.

So Warma-Sheen!Kelvin got frozen, and became Kelvin_1234 and Saulot reused the name.

Warm_Sheen!Kelvin was also Hollywood iirc and he was removed from Staff for cheating.

Saulot may be a lot of shitty things IRL, but he typically isn’t a bad player on games.

@Pavel Saulot is too much of an egomaniac to pretend to be someone else.

Only one place these days. Maybe I’ll get spicy and try a second place.

@dvoraen said in MU Peeves Thread:

@Cobalt This is what happened to me with The Becoming. I had ideas, and a great intro scene, then my brain flatlined about MUing in general.

I don’t know what The Becoming is or was, but I like the name! 10/10 would have my interest piqued.

@Yam said in Tough Calls:

I’d like to hear some experiences from staffers that have had to make the tough call to ban what they’d consider problematic players, or players that were simply not a good fit. What factored into your decision? How did you approach it? Did you consult with other staffers? Did you receive any backlash? Did you set aside time to discuss the ban with them or did you simply notify and ban? Did you issue warnings? Did it result in a healthier atmosphere, a worse atmosphere, or something else?

I know this is like five days ago, which is apparently a long time but…

Back on Haunted Memories, when I was TL of the vampire sphere, I eventually removed a player from the sphere because they were too much. I would come home from work, log in to the game, and have at least five requests from them. Often PVP requests, requests for rulings, requests for more plot, etc. Just constant stream of me, me, me, me, me.

I was constantly handling their requests, their problems, their fights with other players, their urgent needs. It got to the point where I could not get anything else done. I sat them down and said: You are taking up too much of our time, you are not a good fit for the sphere, your character is being frozen, you are free to app into any other sphere but vampire.

It didn’t go over well and I was both lauded and flamed for doing it. I still breathed a sigh of relief when I washed my hands of them.

Most of my other ‘please leave my game’ decisions were cut and try harassment or sexpest issues.

Though I do wish I had asked Spider to just the fuck off my game, when she decided to lead a player riot against me on Darkwater b/c I didn’t make Shaft the summer king.