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MU Peeves Thread
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I remember a drama about channel greetings and people feeling super left out because some people got lots of greetings and others didn’t and even at the time I found it depressing because a lot of the time it was just about timing and noticing someone log on while actively paying attention as opposed to being identity specific and half the time I only notice someone was online when I see their disconnect message.
I think ten years is probably about right. I don’t think snackness and I were even on the same game though, I think the hobby just gets like this sometimes.
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And I’m not ASD, I swear,
This phrase gives me the ick. I’m assuming you don’t intend it negatively, but there is so much stigma around being autistic already that it would be really cool if we didn’t casually add to it.
I tend to greet people more often than not because I hate feeling invisible and I want people to know that they’re seen. That said, I try not to announce myself every time I log in because it sucks when THAT is ignored, and I generally only greet people who do say hi or give some indication that they want to be greeted, because not everyone has the connect/disconnect messages on, and maybe the quiet person doesn’t actually want to be perceived in that way.
Pretty much all of us have some communication baggage.
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Greetings, meatbags.
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I always find it a bit creepy when it is clear someone has someone else on watch and they start gushing over them on the channel when they log in, but haven’t even ; waved or said ‘hi’ yet.
It also kind of bums me out if I end up logging in day after day and get tumbleweeds, but there is very clearly a group that are friends and treat each other logging on like the second coming of Jesus or something.
Obviously there is nothing objectively wrong with these behaviours and people can say hi to who they want. But, it is a peeves thread and I am allowed to find the behaviour personally irritating, also!
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@Pacha Right! Obviously it’s normal to not be watching your screen 24/7 and just not greet everyone all of the time, but when there’s a severe difference in how they all caps fawn over one person and totally ignore another two minutes later it’s awkward, esp if it’s consistent. Like just say hi? lol
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@Pacha said in MU Peeves Thread:
there is very clearly a group that are friends and treat each other logging on like the second coming of Jesus or something
I’m so glad I’ve collected the kind of friends who generally barely acknowledge each other, especially immediately upon logging in.
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@Pacha said in MU Peeves Thread:
I always find it a bit creepy when it is clear someone has someone else on watch and they start gushing over them on the channel when they log in, but haven’t even ; waved or said ‘hi’ yet.
It also kind of bums me out if I end up logging in day after day and get tumbleweeds, but there is very clearly a group that are friends and treat each other logging on like the second coming of Jesus or something.
Obviously there is nothing objectively wrong with these behaviours and people can say hi to who they want. But, it is a peeves thread and I am allowed to find the behaviour personally irritating, also!
Seconding this. Sometimes I just need a minute to get my bearings, especially if I’m coming from work, dealing with the kids, trying to settle down myself. We’re no longer in the glomps era. The age of glomp is over, the time of “hey” has come.
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I like a good meowdy
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@catzilla said in MU Peeves Thread:
I like a good meowdy
Only greeting I’m responding to from now on.
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I do wish there were a way to tag people in Ares so it gives them a channel notification.
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I am just not the sort of person to greet newcomers like a Labrador Retriever aggressively licking your face.
I’m more like an old tortoiseshell cat who’s in the house… somewhere. And will probably notice your presence within the hour, or when you shake the treat bag.
You guys are socialising in channels? That’s wild.
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I enjoy socializing in channels! I will usually say hi if I happen to be looking at it. Admittedly, on Ares, I often am not looking at it. Or I’m distracted. So it’s a bit of a shotgun friendliness punctuated by long periods of doing something else.
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yeah, like I will absolutely say HI to 3 people and then immediately leave the keys for any amount of time, so it’s always going to be sporadic.
I def get the other side, sometimes I also get that whole ‘ok but why not me am i not fun’ and then I have to remind myself of all the contradicting evidence
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@hellfrog said in MU Peeves Thread:
yeah, like I will absolutely say HI to 3 people and then immediately leave the keys for any amount of time, so it’s always going to be sporadic.
I def get the other side, sometimes I also get that whole ‘ok but why not me am i not fun’ and then I have to remind myself of all the contradicting evidence
This is a big thing. I absolutely do this myself, even though I know a) it’s not true, and it’s b) me actively ruining my own enjoyment over things I am making up in my head.
My peeve really is me.
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I want people to feel welcome, but I don’t want to engage because I’m tired as fuck or distracted as hell. I’m happy to see you. I just need a nap and four more hours in the day.
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@Val This needs to go on a t-shirt
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The above discussion is why I will not have logon messages if I make a game.
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My level of channel engagement is completely random and subject to the ebb and flow of my energy level, that includes greetings.
That being said, it’s never really occurred to me that people would feel miffed by my lack of attention; I just subconsciously assume they thought they dodged a bullet.
