Posts made by Luna

@GF Woah. That should be utterly illegal! That’s so scary!

@junipersky I had to literally just come to terms with never seeing friends and family in Austin/the Hill country because of my severe allergy to Cedar. I’m so sorry you’re miserable, I empathize hard. I hope it’s just allergies!

@Aria Oh yeah ask for a peak flow! Now, grain of salt, I’m not a doctor, etc etc, but I’ve been a lifelong asthmatic. This is what I’ve been told over the years, it’s something that might be good to bring up with your doctor.

I was told, while in the ICU from an attack, by my doc that was in charge of my care, that her BFF had just died from asthma. Her BFF was a fellow doctor with mild adult asthma. We tend to push though more and not take it seriously enough and can get into trouble. That really stuck with me. I don’t say this to scare you, just to make sure you’re taking care of yourself and don’t lapse into complacency. My issue is capitalism forced me to work while sick, with other people who were sick, and who nearly killed me. (Literally, I coded)

Another grain of salt advice to tuck into the back of your mind in case of emergencies, IV Magnesium can literally save your life in an ER/Ambulance asthma attack situation. A very knowledgeable paramedic saved me from intubation by running Magnesium. Even the ER doc didn’t know about that. (It’s been researched and proven!)

The breathing out thing was what I was told by a respiratory therapist. They’re AMAZING. Gave me breathing exercises and actual information on how best breathe when I take my meds.

Also, ask your doc if you should be using a spacer. I found a spacer to be a literal life saver when they changed the inhalers from the CFC type.

Totally unasked for advice, feel free to smile and nod and move on, but I feel bringing something up that you can ask your doctor about may be helpful and at the very least isn’t harmful.

@Wyrmsign said in Dead MU*s you remember fondly:

Mab and Morrigan. Mab was Isis when the game was Dark Wine and Roses then they took it over and turned it into the trainwreck that was Shadowed Isles.

YES!! Ty!! I forgot about DWR being the predecessor somehow. That game was around at such a bad point in my life, I didn’t have the spine to say ‘uh how about no’. Awful awful awful but there were honestly so many super cool people too.

My inability to set boundaries is my bad. There are been far worse and legit dangerous game runners so could have been worse.

@farfalla Seems fair, I’m done, it just took me a long time to figure out my reply and format it or I wouldn’t have made it.

@Kestrel I’ve been playing since like…1992, minus my recent time out since TR…and your minority/majority experience is reversed from mine. I’m one person, so I’m not discounting your experiences but I’m going to go out on a limb and think that my playlist isn’t the same as your playlist at the very least.

Slut shaming is a huge issue online and RL. People oversexualixing small things is a huge issue rn RL which is why I stated I give it a serious side eye in these discussions.

I’m going to be honest, considering the current way things are going RL, I personally am not going to give in to some perceived prude persecution complex.

Once is a coincidence, twice is a pattern. Fuck nuance, if something happens more than once that you don’t like and you don’t find another place to play, that’s on you.

It’s a solution I hate, but it’s legit been the only 100% working solution going as far back as I can remember. We should always work to improve any community, but there will always be disagreements over what is and isn’t acceptable behavior.

Unacceptable sexual situations has been in public discourse by sociologists since the early 1990’s due to the LambdaMoo incident and hasn’t really been considered ‘solved’ yet. . (See this account and this article)

@Aria Idk if anyone has told you this, but it’s helpful to think about an asthma attack as a problem breathing out, not a problem breathing in. So if you’re having an attack, while you’re getting your rescue, focus on pushing air out.

Also be extra sure to follow doctors orders, take your peak flows, all of that. Asthma is way more insidious for adults.

@IoleRae Wait. Wait wait wait. Are we literally talking about sex games in these complaints? Bc that’s disingenuous af.

Well. Someone hand me a rake, I guess I’m now officially ‘you kids get off my lawn’ years old. Back in my day even Shang didn’t have this much public sex.

Rip. I just wanted to play Mage again.

@helvetica said in MU Peeves Thread:

@Snackness @Pyrephox @Tez wow I can’t wait to be made uncomfortable by you all when I dip into some casual bar rp and you try to sit on my character’s lap for no fucking reason

It’s even better at a coffee shop.

@bear_necessities Understandable. Have a nice day.

@helvetica said in MU Peeves Thread:

But then the highest-ranking female character, an NPC, seemed trotted out for sex more than anything else. And male PCs had lists of sexual conquests in their IC connections.

Yeah I can see how that would be off putting for sure. But at least they were up front about it!

@tsar said in MU Peeves Thread:

@Luna said in MU Peeves Thread:

As pro kink as I am, do I love people being roped into other peoples public displays of whatever? No. But I’m honestly not going to be outspoken about it like I once was. Just leave. If you remove the audience, you remove what they’re after. Only you can set your boundaries and you’re in charge of them. (Unless it’s your work place RL then everyone can fuck right off because no one wants to be there in the first place, don’t make shit weird).

I’m going to return to this passage, because I don’t believe it’s as clear as you may think it is. When you suggest that people should “just leave”, it shifts responsibility.

It’s now the responsibility of the person uncomfortable to leave. It’s now their responsibility to remove the audience.

I personally am non confrontational and would rather just leave, no skin off my nose. It’s the first thought that comes to mind. A lot of people, myself in the past included, would remain, be miserable, but also not speak up, and hate the whole thing.

You keep fixating on that line and ignoring my whole ‘gold standard’ statement, which I believe in, despite the fact that I know from personal experience and statements literally on this board that some of us suffer from anxiety and aren’t going to go all Ace Attorney and object to fuck all.

That said, I think we generally agree on a large number of other points and it’s possible stuff is just getting lost in semantics. But that’s how I took what you wrote there.

Moving along:

Despite previous posts, lol, I’m not a hardcore confrontational person (unless you’re that dude who thoughtposed and RPed cabbages at me). If I run into someone and they’re generally kind of weird, I’ll make an effort to avoid them. I won’t hop into their scenes, because I think it’s fair to allow them the RP they want without my interruptions.

Literally same, hence first inclination is leave, but that statement seems to have caused some sort of issue.

But in general like, just don’t wander into people’s scenes and be disruptive. It might not be work, but it’s my hobby time and I’d rather not have to swim against the current here too.

Yeah, that would be great, but clearly either they don’t realize it’s an issue, so you have to say something, or they don’t care, leaving the only solution for immediate relief is to leave.

@helvetica said in MU Peeves Thread:

@Luna said in MU Peeves Thread:

Because I think y’all might have missed that whole part.

There’s a lot to miss.

I’m less than ideally medicated and am doing my level best.

@bear_necessities said in MU Peeves Thread:

But I mean TBF I don’t think the definition of weird sex culture is like, boning in public or whatever.

Ok, but you keep addressing it like it’s a sex in public thing. What is ‘weird sex culture’? And frankly, if it’s the culture of the game and you’re not vibing that’s kind of on you and different from people who interrupt scenes with something that’s not the accepted norm.

It’s more like … on several non-consent WoD games

I’m gonna be that bitch. I see zero reason for a game to be non-consent. Absolutely none.

I used to play, where I was told that as a mortal I shouldn’t go out in public alone because I’d get SA’d and/or murdered by a vampire/werewolf/whatever because WoD is so DARK AND GRITTY and it’s just acceptable culturally to do that sort of thing. That’s a pretty extreme example but goes with what I’m saying here.

Murder, uh yeah. Murder is pretty on point. I think SA as a built in ‘woooo suuuuper daaaark’ threat is lazy and cliche.

@tsar Did you miss this? — Additionally, loud and clear boundary setting should be the gold standard. I’d rather hear a complaint of ‘these people were doing this and several of us stated that we didn’t feel comfortable with the scene and they continued to ignore our boundaries’ rather than ‘I wish people wouldn’t do this because ew’. Is there a difference? Absolutely. One scenario expects others to recognize that people are making you uncomfortable. The other gives them the option to either respect your feelings without any guessing games. It shows other players healthy boundary setting and communication. —

Because I think y’all might have missed that whole part.

@mietze said in MU Peeves Thread:

While we still have a long way to go, <snip>

YES. Yes yes yes to all of this. I think you really made good points and that’s exactly what I’m saying. Rather than trying to have some sort of weird publicly shamey but behind the scenes everything is different sort of culture, just talk that shit out.

Set game wide expectations of behavior and empower players to speak up against things that make them uncomfortable. We tend to relegate too much to talking behind someone’s back or let it eat us up and just ‘deal with it’ because maybe it seems like no one else is bothered. I’ve been guilty of it too.

Honestly though, if I’m in a scene with A and B, and then C and D come in and start behaving in a way that makes me uncomfortable (which honestly doesn’t have to always be sexual in nature) but I don’t feel comfortable myself saying ‘hey weirdos, cut that out’, I would hope that I can page A and B and be like ‘hey, this isn’t working for me, can we move the scene?’ If they can’t, why am I going to invest my time working on building a story with them?

@tsar said in MU Peeves Thread:

Nah, if you start tossing your kinks in my face in a public scene I’m going to object. There are places for that, it’s not most MUs.

So we agree. I don’t understand the ‘nah’ part unless you missed the whole part where I said to object?

@GF That’s not nothing for sure! I’m glad you are at least able to recognize what that means for you and I hope you can find some improvement.

@Solstice This gif is magical and I love your brain for picking it.